It’s easy to think that it’s the big things and the big moments that make a marriage successful. The big gestures might be the most memorable, but they aren’t what really make a marriage. It’s the daily habits you develop to build each other and your marriage up. Here are some daily habits (or gestures) that can make your marriage stronger:
Say what’s on your mind.
You might be keeping your thoughts and emotions inside to avoid an argument, but it will actually cause a bigger issue to leave those things unsaid. Using wisdom to filter what needs to be said is key. Keeping thoughts and things inside will only lead to some sort of eruption in the end. “Watch over your heart with all diligence, for from it flow the springs of life.” (Proverbs 4:23)
Praise and compliment each other.
It’s a simple thing that people forget too often. It can be as simple as complimenting your spouse’s appearance, or telling them how awesome the dinner they cooked was. And these simple compliments go such a long way. Just because she knows that you think she is pretty or he is good looking it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t tell them anymore. “A man has joy in an apt answer, and how delightful is a timely word!” (Proverbs 15:23)
Find small ways to spend time together.
Even if it’s just being in the same room or cuddling on the couch while watching a TV show. It’s easy to get caught up in your busy life and forget to just be together. Small things like that add up and will tighten the bond and make you feel even closer to each other. It’s amazing what sharing a daily ten minute download of your days will do to build your relationship. “Then the LORD God said, ‘It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.’” (Genesis 2:18)
Make time for yourself.
It’s important in a marriage that you both have hobbies, interests and friends of your own and that you make time for those things. It makes you happier, recharges you and in turn makes your marriage stronger. Two have become one, but you are still two individuals with your own identity. This also applies to having alone time with God as well. This is the most important relationship and will have always have a positive impact on your marriage. “Very early in the morning, while it was still dark, Jesus got up, left the house and went off to a solitary place, where he prayed.” (Mark 1:35-37)
Encourage each other.
This one is a little bit different that number two. It is important to encourage each other regardless of the season you each are going through. However, some seasons might require a little bit more encouragement than others. Even a little encouragement goes a long way. It is really important for your spouse to feel supported by you and know that they can trust you. Never underesitmate the power of being team. Being an encourager doesn’t mean you have all of the answers, it means that you will be there for them and build them up until that answer comes.
“Therefore encourage one another and build up one another, just as you also are doing.” (1 Thessalonians 5:11)